i went to school with a girl whose dad did something that made public news, and not for a good reason. we weren’t that close, so i never talked to her about the whole thing, but i think about her often. people can be cruel, especially in high school, and i can only imagine that she got completely ripped apart because of it. i gotta ask myself though, why should she be judged for something her dad did? she has her own mind, her own experiences, her own moral code. instead of our judgment, she likely needed our support & understanding.
it’s like the children of the college admissions scandal. their lives have been ruined because of something their parents did. while some of the kids knew, many of them appeared to be caught off guard, yet we condemn them just the same. they have been ridiculed and threatened, lost jobs and friends. & most won’t ever actually be able to get into any university. i’m kind of ashamed to admit it, but i’ve found myself judging them, too, & we need to do better.
think about the last time someone thought you were a liar, cheater, womanizer, partier… simply because that shoe fit someone you associate with. how did you feel?
we have enough of our own issues to deal with. we don’t need to carry the weight of what the people around us have done.
i dare you to think about the mistakes made by people close to you. would you want to be held responsible for their actions? do you want people to think that their morals are the same as yours?
maybe what we should do is take a second to understand. & instead of judgment, we should show them love and compassion.
so like j cole suggests, lets keep the peace like dalai lama. “love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. without them humanity cannot survive.”- dalai lama
